Today I had an opportunity to speak with a female friend.
She�s been through a great deal this year. She is strong and sensitive � I have seen this and more from her over the course of our friendship.
She is under a tremendous amount of pressure at the office. When she calls I know she feels she can confide in me no subject barred.
Lately, she�s been calling me nearly on a daily basis, talking about the same subjects, same observations, same comments and opinions.
I feel worn down, helpless and sad after she and I talk.
I can�t fix any of the scenarios she shares with me. This drives me batty.
I have this need to make suggestions when the person or persons I love, seem to need help.
Trouble is, when I make a suggestion her replies sound to me as if I�m being shot down.
With school and work and a hellacious* daily commute I have no energy or desire to hear this or deal with this.
I don�t want to deal with her calls any longer.
The feelings I come away with, are neither healthy nor productive for me.
I need to talk to her.
What do I say? More importantly how do I say it, so that I don�t hurt her or blow our friendship?
Am I a bad friend?